Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Hi, friends.

I feel like I have a little bit of explaining to do on this little blog of mine..(did anybody else just sing "I'm gonna let it shine" in their heads? Cause I did.)

Some people may already know what I'm about to say, or have come to the conclusion themselves based on things that I have/haven't said.

But here's the skinny-I'm getting a divorce. I don't mean to make light of the situation-or maybe I do, that seems to be the way that I deal with things and it's always worked out for me.

Instead of giving anybody an explanation on why or when or how or what caused this to happen (because let's face it-it's nobody's business), I'm going to enlighten you on what I've learned going through this experience.

  1. I am flawed. No, I don't say that to beg for compliments. I say that because I can not change anybody else. The only thing that I can change about this situation is myself-and I plan to, in order to become the girl that I intend to be, and the wife that I want to be when that time comes again.
  2. As flawed as I am, I am a daughter of God, who loves me. And I deserve to be treated as such.
  3. I am surrounded by people that love and support me-visiting teachers that bring me flowers and home teachers that invite me to dinner..office managers who bring me cupcakes, and parents who take me on long road trips to get out of my apartment. Blessed doesn't even begin to describe my life.
  4. Things that used to be important to me in a marriage, I'm realizing I don't need as much. And things that I thought I could do without, I'm realizing I need more than I expected. Life is interesting that way.
  5. I think Robert Frost really said it best, "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on."

And it does, folks. Through pain and sorrow, through happiness and peace. Life goes on. And whether you're married or divorced, old or young, spiritual or aetheist...your life is a gift. And if it must go on, don't let it go on without you running alongside, smiling.

So for now, I choose to pursue happiness.

8 comments:

  1. Hey Heidi From a divorced woman (my 1st marriage) to another Life is better when you are happy! In this situation you did the right thing, Life is to short to just settle. This is something to be selfish about because in the end, its your life that your going to be living! I don't know what happened but my favorite saying when I was going through a divorce is " Sometimes your knight in shining armor is just a retard in tin foil". There is someone out there that will be everything you've always wanted! Trust me!!!! I'm excited to get skinny with the Biggest Loser in the 480!

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  2. Oh, Heidi. I'm so sorry for you and all of this and sorry I wasn't around as much during all of it. You seem to have a great outlook on everything though and I know you'll bounce right back up and be better than ever. I like the list of what you've learned.

    much love, ashton

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  3. Heidi!
    I miss hanging out with you when we were so young and dorky. Wait I am still those. Anywho, I am sorry that things didnt work out but I am proud of you for doing what you need to do and taking care of yourself. I love ya girly, and next time I am in the valley and can find a babysitter we should get together!!

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  4. I love you hun! You know you can text or call me whenever you need to talk! I'm sorry I can't be in AZ right now for you, but I am always here for you! Stay positive, you are right is saying that your Father in Heaven loves you. You are an amazing human being!

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  5. You are amazing! And I love you very much. You are an inspiration to me and I agree about everything that you said.. not so much the flawed part :)

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  6. Oh gurrrl. Let me tell ya, I have been where you are. Offical docs signed sealed and delivered. And then at the last possible moment everything changed for what turned out to be the better for me. What ever your better may be I hope you find happiness. Heavenly Father wants that for all of us. **Hugs from your cosmo gal pal ;)

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  7. Oh Heidi you are so right you deserve happiness and to be treated special!

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  8. Heidi you are so beautiful and I look up to you.
    Thank you for your example and being so brave.
    I love how you're being so positive.
    Just always remember Heavenly Father loves you
    and you are never alone.
    BIGGEST LOOSER BRING IT :)
    We're proud of you

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