A few months ago, right after my ex husband left, one of my friend's husbands was killed in an accident, while she was almost due to have their first child.
I went to the funeral, and as I was hugging her afterwards, she said she was sorry about my divorce, and had heard that divorce was worse than death.
I don't remember how I responded outwardly, but in my head I was thinking, "Say whaaaat?!"
Since that day, I've thought about what she said a lot. Obviously, both situations suck, but would I rather have my husband die unexpectedly, or leave me?
The plus side to death is that you know your husband still loves you. He did not choose to leave you. You are not left wondering what is so wrong with you, that the person who vowed to be with you for eternity couldn't even last a year.
On the other hand, moving on and letting go would be so much more difficult for those reasons. I would have a harder time wanting to find and love somebody else, because the person that I loved who loved me back, would be waiting on the other side. But you don't want to spend the next 60 years alone either.
So, here is my question:
Obviously, you'd never choose either.
But if you had to..
Death or divorce?