First things first-I've noticed a few new followers, and I just wanted to say hi! New followers are always greatly appreciated and welcomed. I wish you all cupcakes and sunshine.
Ok, now on to the real bid-nez. (that's my gangster way of saying business. I'm from the hood, in case you didn't know.)
I'd like to preface my little rant today with a picture that made me giggle because, quite frankly, although it's ridiculous, the concept is essentially true.
(click on the picture to read the fine print..)
Holy crap on a cracker, where do I even begin?
I guess I've always been a bit of a realist. I don't romanticize things as much as the average girl. Sure, I may be a tad bit too cynical for my own good, especially after my vast experience in the "getting hurt" area..but FRICK.
I've learned a lot through those experiences, and I can tell you that one of the biggest problems that exists in the dating/relationship field is exemplified by that picture.
We wonder why we can't find relationships that last...why the perfect partner never comes along...And I am here to tell you that it is because of lists like that.
You want somebody that will let you put a check mark next to every cute little thing on that check list? Then marry a woman.
Here is what happens:
You get in a relationship. It is great. You are so lovey and happy, and do everything perfectly.
Then reality sets in. And guess what?
Your boyfriend isn't going to be perfect 100% of the time.
Your husband is going to say really stupid things when you're crying, because he's thinking logically, when you want him to be thinking emotionally with you.
It may come out that he really doesn't like to cuddle..and he was just humoring you during your courtship.
Your wife isn't going to look pretty first thing in the morning, and she's probably an ugly crier.
She's not going to want you-know-what all the time.
Eventually, she's going to get pregnant, and be moody, and get..dare I say it? STRETCH MARKS.
But in my imperfect and humble opinion, this is what makes relationships great...
The fact that nobody is perfect. Nobody is going to do exactly what you want, exactly when you want it. Men can not read minds, and women try too hard to.
We piss each other off and then make up. He's not loving enough, and she lays on the love more than he can handle sometimes.
But that is what is going to make us grow. Not a perfect checklist.
Obviously, I'm not the expert on relationships. I mean, hi, I'm divorced.
And maybe some people's relationships are as perfect as they make it out to be on their blog.. (ha. yeah right.)
My point is, ladies and gents, throw away your list of Mr./Ms. Perfect, because no relationship can be founded on that.
Because those things go away, and at the end of the day, you still have to love each other, not despite imperfections, but because of them.
Sounds better than dying alone, doesn't it? :)